This daddy’s girl will be seeking blessings from her fathers

One night I picked up a girl who worked in a local area hospital. She worked in the labor and delivery unit and she was just getting off work.

I talked to her for a while about my mom being a nurse and how much she loved it. This girl said that she loved it as well. She said that she loved babies and to be around them when are they brand new is a lot of fun.

As I started to talk to her, I had the distinct impression that her father loved her very much and that he was praying for her. As a response to this, I said, I’ll bet you make your dad proud! I’ll bet he loves you.

She smiled and said that she was close with her dad. She was the oldest of seven children and we talked for a minute about her responsibility as the oldest child in a big family .

I was getting this impression that I needed to press more concerning the church and her relationship with her father. I felt like she was a member of the church but that she was definitely not active. There was no specific thing that indicated this other than how I felt. Sometimes someone gets in the car and they are dressed in a way or appear in a way that gives an indication of their level of commitment they have to the church or to their father in heaven. In this instance that was not the case.

I was trying to find a way around that when I decided to just start talking about her life and asking her personal questions about her relationships . This is expressly forbidden and therefore fraught with danger in regards to your ability to keep driving. I felt however, that there was an urgency here and that I was supposed to press forward this way.

I asked her if she lived with family. She said no she lived with her boyfriend. I returned to the dad question and asked her how her dad felt about that and how he felt about this guy. She said that he wasn’t thrilled with her situation and that he was still very much on the fence with this guy. These were his feelings despite the fact that her boyfriend seemed to treat her well. She said, my dad always worries and he wants me to be close to him.

I said, I’ll bet your dad wants him to marry you. I’ll bet it makes him a little bit frustrated that your boyfriend doesn’t love you enough to do that. She said, that’s how he sees it but my boyfriend and I don’t agree. She seemed pretty assured of herself when she said this. It was like she actually believed what she was saying and normally at this time I would back off but the spirit told me to keep going. I felt strongly that she wasn’t telling the truth but defending and making excuses for her actions.

I said, I’ll bet your boyfriend has given you the whole song and dance about how it’s just a piece of paper and that it’s your love that matters. I’ll bet he’s told you that a marriage isn’t necessary because your relationship is firm. She asked, how did you know that? I said, it’s kind of the thing that all of the people say when they’re not willing to make that level of a commitment.

I said, the truth of the matter is that you want that commitment from him and you know deep down that this is what you should do. You have been taught that all of your life but you’re afraid to lose your boyfriend. I said, let me tell you a little something about guys. I said, if you ask a guy if he wants to do something or if he will do something, he’ll say yes and you’re like 50-50 on whether or not he will follow through. If you ask him to make a specific commitment and sign on the dotted line validating that commitment then it means something. At that point when he looks you in the eyes and makes this firm commitment, 90% of the time he’ll fight for that commitment. That means something to him and that means something to you.

I asked, don’t you think you deserve that kind of commitment? Don’t you think you deserve that kind of loyalty? She was stunned. She said, no one‘s ever spoken to me like that. I could tell that it sounded like something she knew her dad wanted to say but he hadn’t said. She said, I think that he is afraid to drive me away so he just let it go. She said, my dad‘s not very confrontational.

I said, you know that he’s praying for you and that he hopes for the best for you. I said, I assume your dad is a member of the church and she said yes. I asked, is your mom? She said, my mom is a member of the church but hasn’t been active for a long time and doesn’t believe anymore. She said, that causes a lot of pain for my dad.

I could see right then in my mind what was going on. This dad was trying to keep his family together, teach them the right things but not alienate them. It seemed to be something of a competition for the souls of the family between he and his wife. This is why he didn’t want to drive her away.

I laid this scenario out for her and asked if that’s how it was, she said yes. She said that she had six younger brothers and sisters at home and her dad was all about getting them to church and doing the things the way that you’re supposed to in the church.

She said, he prays for me constantly. He always says that to me when he talks to me and he always asks me to pray to help me make good decisions. I haven’t prayed in a long time. I guess I have been a bit rebellious.

I asked her why she thought her dad cared so much and why she thought that he prayed for her. She said that he prays a lot for her because he loves her. She said, I know that, but he just doesn’t get it.

I started getting some promptings regarding her relationship with her boyfriend. This is dicey territory but I decided to jump in. I said, you have been feeling frustrated for quite some time about your relationship. You have never bought the line about it just being a piece of paper. You want your boyfriend to marry you.

I asked, is your boyfriend a member of the church? She said, yes, we both are but we haven’t been to church in a long time. When I moved to Salt Lake and we moved in together, we just kind of put that behind us.

I said, one of the big problems you have here is that it doesn’t feel right to you. It felt fun at times, especially at the start, but it doesn’t feel right to you now. Due to your pride at not wanting to be wrong, you’re sticking it out and not bringing up the real issues.

The real issue here is that you have forgotten who your father in heaven is. You have forgotten that he loves you and how much he loves you. He wants you to be happy. Then I looked at her and I could tell what she was thinking. As I looked at her, she was glancing down. I could tell by the spirit that she was thinking that she didn’t deserve and wasn’t worthy of that kind of love. She was thinking she didn’t deserve that happiness.

I said, right now you’re thinking that you don’t deserve the love of your father in heaven. You’re thinking that you don’t deserve to be happy. I told her that this thought is coming directly from Satan. I told her that this is how he talks to her and that is how he makes people do things that they wouldn’t normally do.

I told her that at times in our lives we make mistakes and Satan is there to remind us that we made those mistakes. He tells us that because of how horrible and unforgivable those mistakes are we can’t be forgiven. He tells us that because we’ve made these mistakes we are unworthy of our father in heaven‘s love. I told her that this is a lie. I told her that this is Satan pulling her away with lies.

I asked her if there is anything she could do that would make her dad not love her. She said, no, I’ve already broken his heart, and he keeps loving me anyway. I said, that’s exactly how your father in heaven is. He loves you and he wants you back. He loves you and he wants you to be happy. He loves you and he knows that you deserve to be happy because you are his daughter. You need to decide what you want but you need to know that there is a way back.

I told her that Jesus Christ paid for our sins and all of the negative things we could go through in life. Through his atonement, he made it so that if we look to him, our burdens can be lifted and our sins can be erased . I said, when you think about church all you hear in your head is these negative things about being judged and that God doesn’t want you. I said, that’s pure Satan and he’s found a way into your brain. You need to kick him out.

I said, you need to decide whether or not you want this relationship with your boyfriend and if you do, you need to tell him that it needs to be done right. You need to tell him that it is time to get married. I said, you need to be bold and put it to him just like that. You need to tell him that this is what God wants and this is what you want.

I asked her how she thought her dad would feel about what I just said. She said, it would make him cry. She said, I have younger sisters and I know that my dad worries about them. That’s one of the things that has bothered me. I think it would be good to do the right thing, but I don’t know how to go about it.

I said, you live really close to a church house don’t you? She said, yes I do. I said, why do you think Satan works so hard to keep you out of that place? It’s because he wants you to be miserable. He wants you to settle for less like you’re doing right now and he wants you to be a bad example for your sisters. He’s all about destruction.

I told her that God put her in my car tonight so that she could get this message. God wants her to recognize who she is and realize that everyone makes mistakes but God always keeps the door open. I said, he’s inviting you to walk through that door.

I said, when I was a kid, they used to say don’t live beneath your privileges. This meant that we are children of our father in heaven. As children of God, we are privileged to be loved by him. We don’t want to live beneath that position, we want to live up to that.

I said, there are a couple things you need to do. First, you need to have a conversation with your boyfriend. He needs to make a decision. He needs to decide how important you are to him. Second, you need to go to church on Sunday. I’m not sure which ward you belong to, but I do know that there’s a church house close to your apartment. I said, go to that church house at 9 AM, ask for the Bishop and he will help you from there.

I said, the Bishop can even marry you guys and get you on the path that will bring you to happiness. I asked her if she would commit to do these things and she said yes. She said, I’ve known for some time that I need to make a change and I feel very strongly right now that this is what Heavenly Father wants me to do.

I said, the third thing you need to do is you need to call your dad, tell him about this ride and what you’ve felt. Tell him what you have decided regarding your relationship. You need to tell him that you’ve talked with the Bishop and that you want to do things right. She said, I think he’ll be so happy. I said, then you need to ask your father to give you a blessing.

I asked her how long it had been since her dad gave her a blessing. She said that it was back when she was in high school, back when she was active. She said, I always was a daddy‘s girl. I think I would like to have a blessing very much.

She said, I felt lost and have known that I need to make a change in my life. I haven’t known how to identify what to do or how to go about it. She said, it is crazy how you knew exactly what to say here tonight. I said, I didn’t know, but Heavenly Father knew. He knew that you were struggling and he knew that your dad was praying for you. Tonight he’s reached out with his spirit and touched your soul. You need to pray and do the things that we’ve talked about and let him bring you the rest of the way back.

She said that she would. Just as she said this, we turned the corner onto her street. She lives in a residential area and there is a great big stake center right in front of her house. Laughing, she said, you didn’t know how right you were when you said there was a church close to my house did you? I said, Heavenly Father did though.

I said, at this point I think it’s settled, you know that your Heavenly Father is reaching out. The only question is, what are you going to do? She said, I’m done living in limbo, I’m coming back. I can’t wait to call my dad.

She said, no one has ever talk to me like that in my life and I’m so glad that you did. I said, I’m a dad and a grandpa, I know we love our children and I know God loves you too. I know he will do anything to bring you home just like your dad. It’s time to make these changes! She said, you’re right and I will.

I asked her what she felt. The Spirit had been along for the ride in abundance and I knew that we both felt it. Having grown up going to church I knew that she knew what that felt like. Her answer was, it was amazing. I said, that is the spirit and when you feel that, God is confirming the truth that has been spoken to you. He is directing you too. She said, I know this and message received.

She said this ride had been amazing and thanked she thanked me. She got out of the car and went into the apartment.